Fomo…. we all get it, some moreso than others. I used to have very bad fomo a year ago. It’s difficult not to have those feelings when you’re a rising/aspiring blogger in the very beginning stages. Although I’m nowhere near where I want to be, I’ve gotten to the point where I’ve been able to overcome (for the most part, like 99%) my blogger FOMOness. Here’s how:
- Even though you think you’re prepared, you’re probably not. I am a firm believer that God puts forth things in HIS timely manner. For me.. It has been things such as NYFW or a collab with certain brand.. or even a certain event. We are constantly learning, discovering, fine-tuning, or improving ourselves, our outlook, our attitudes, and our content.. thus when God believe’s that we’re ready, he then will present to you the opportunity. Of course my current goal is to be invited to NYFW and I’ve had more fomo on Fashion Week this fall than EVER. However, I realized it wasn’t the time for a few reasons. 1. Tyler was still in the midst of applying for police and going through various check ups, so I had to be his emotional support through the process and 2. I honestly can’t say I felt ready.. I was just transitioning out of my more casual looks and felt quite out of tune with my old spunky street, higher fashion self. NYFW is obviously all about what you show up wearing and I knew deep down I wouldn’t have been able to put my best foot forward. I know it sounds silly, but in the industry I am in, it’s the furthest from silly reason, 3. I just couldn’t afford it financially. There was too much going on with our remodel and recent travel expenses that it wouldn’t have been a smart financial move on my end at all.
- Understand and accept that it was for the better. I’ve been in situations where I’ve found that most of my friends are landing collabs with a certain brand while I have yet to be reached out to. While I have felt a little left out seeing the influx of their content for that brand going up, I realize that it is a blessing because 1. Did I REALLY want that collab anyway? Eh.. Probably not. Not that it wouldn’t be something I’m interested in trying, but it’s just not something I currently need or am in search of, 2. I’m constantly playing catch up with shooting content for brands, adding another probably wouldn’t have worked out time wise anyway. In fact, in the next few months, I’m trying to cut back on collabs solely for the reason that I’m drowning in content-shooting! I’m redirecting my focus to ones that truly have an impact on my journey to my career goals.
- Patience is a virtue. Patience.. I grew up having slim to none. A lot of it had to do with being the only child; and honestly, it was one of my biggest flaws growing up. With little patience comes attitude issues, the inability to consider others, and just a whole bag of other “goodies” you don’t want in your life. Lol. Well, in the last year, God has definitely fed me lots ‘opportunities’ to help fix my lack of patience… and getting my FOMO under control was definitely one of them. Now reflecting back.. I honestly could not even tell you the last time I TRULY felt so devastated/impatient about a collab, event, or anything blogger related. I’ll throw in the occasional, “Ugh, can I just land them already?!”, but it’s only been with one brand honestly. And even with them, I think I have some more building up left to do. And if I never land them, that’s fine too! Life moves on. Now, I am so quick in my reaction of, ‘All good, it’ll come when the time is right or won’t ever come because it’s not fit for me” that I’ve truly taught myself to keep a good attitude about things.
- Maybe it’s not what you thought you wanted. To piggyback off of what I had just mentioned in my 3rd bullet point.. sometimes not getting invited or landing a collab or if something gets in the way of you getting to the event even if you were invited.. there is ALWAYS a reason for it. ALWAYS. I am the biggest believer in the phrase, “Everything happens for a reason”, and therefore, I seldom am ever mad or disappointed now. Chances are I wouldn’t have enjoyed it, the pay was too low, the company maybe wasn’t the best to work with, whatever, just something. Bottomline, there’s a reason, so let. it. go.
- To those whom aren’t bloggers/influencers but follow many of them. Girl, this life may look glam but it’s not always that glam! I cannot complain because I LOVE what I do but sheesh, I put in hella crazy hours for it. We don’t showcase our lives for the everyday, non-blogging gal to get FOMO. We do it to invite you into our everyday lives; to show you guys cool footage that you would have other wise never gotten access to. If you’re an aspiring blogger, don’t get discouraged girl. We ALL start the same exact way… from scratch. When you feel the time is right, you can and will begin your journey…. just like we all did.